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Tips for dealing with a combative ex

Going through a divorce is hard in any situation, but when your ex is hostile and combative, things get even more challenging. You need to take steps to protect yourself throughout the process if this is what you are going through.

When dealing with an ex who won't negotiate and isn't willing to be respectful, there is a good chance that you will have to go through a trial instead of being able to use mediation or another form of cooperative resolution. This can drag the divorce on a bit longer, so you should be prepared for this battle.

Car accidents: the most common causes

Car crashes in Oklahoma are all too frequently caused by human error. With rapid advances in technology, drivers are especially becoming more distracted on the road. Using the smartphone or a navigation system is not the only possible distraction, though. Even eating, drinking and talking with other occupants in the car will take one's attention from the road. The following are just a few other common causes of accidents.

Driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol is a serious form of human error. Prescription drugs and over-the-counter medicines can impair one's mind as well. Those with medical conditions should take risk factors into account since medical episodes, such as seizures, stroke and heart attack, can occur and heighten the risk for a crash. Conditions like obstructive sleep apnea can raise the chances of drivers falling asleep behind the wheel.

Making a parenting schedule that puts kids first

A parenting schedule for a separated couple in Oklahoma can lead to many inconveniences. However, the plan is supposed to help children maintain a relationship with both parents. That's why parents should resist the temptation to use it as a weapon against one another.

Instead, they should think about the situation from the child's point of view. Where both parents live, the location of the school and all extracurricular activities must be taken into account. Older children might want to be part of the process of creating the schedule. While this could be acceptable, the final plan should be up to the parents.

Alex Masters Joins Henry + Dow

Henry + Dow is pleased to welcome its newest associate attorney, Alexandra Masters. A 2012 graduate of the University of Tulsa College of Law, Alexandra or "Alex," is excited to be serving clients in the practice of Family Law. 

Sharing a financial advisor in divorce can lead to disaster

Seeking financial advice prior to and during a divorce in Oklahoma makes perfect sense, but when two splitting spouses share the same financial professionals, the waters can get a bit murky. Whether someone is a dependent spouse or not, continuing to rely on the advice of a shared financial advisor may lead to a conflict of interest for the advisor and a conflict with one's soon-to-be ex over assets.

According to research provided by MarketWatch, spouses often find that they feel the desire to split things evenly in the early stages of divorce, but this can change as each spouse learns to live independently. The resulting mismatch in ideals could lead to contested divorce proceedings in court. In addition, time also gives each spouse the ability to really inspect what they put into a marriage as individuals, potentially changing expectations of what each wishes to receive in the dissolution of the relationship.

Narcissism in the context of divorce: How to divorce a narcissist

As you age alongside your spouse, you may soon come to find that this person wasn't who they used to be. While people often change, this can lead to a divorce in many cases.

If you decide to push forward with a divorce, you should prepare for a variety of challenges. Furthermore, if you're divorcing a narcissist, the process is rarely simple.

Planning for divorce amid changing tax laws

People in Oklahoma who decide to end their marriages may seriously consider how changes to the tax laws will affect their divorce. In late 2017, Congress passed the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, best known for its changes to income and corporate taxes. One provision affecting divorcing couples will go into effect with the new year. Many couples escalated their divorce timeline in order to finalize a settlement before the end of the year. While the new rules will apply to all divorces finalized on or after Jan. 1, 2019, they will not affect people who completed their separation in 2019 or earlier.

For decades, alimony has been treated consistently under federal tax law. The payer of spousal support can deduct the payments from his or her gross income, resulting in substantial tax savings for a wealthy person. In addition, the recipient would pay taxes on the funds as part of his or her income, typically in a lower tax bracket. As a result of the overall tax savings afforded by this option, wealthy spouses had a significant incentive to agree to generous spousal support payments as part of the divorce settlement.

Reducing divorce risk with proactive debt management

It's no secret that money can be the source of contention and anxiety among married couples in Oklahoma. In fact, a new survey by a financial firm reveals that more than half of all couples go into a relationship with existing debt. Furthermore, 40 percent of the individuals questioned believe financial stress has negatively impacted their relationships. Money woes can also contribute to marital fights, disagreements over who is responsible for debt problems, poor communication and difficulty addressing money matters in general.

Having regular disagreements about debt is also a leading predictor of divorce. A Utah State University study suggests that spouses who fight frequently about money are 30 percent more likely to split. Part of the problem may be an underestimation of debt obligations, something 25 percent of Americans do with student loan responsibilities and 37 percent do with credit card expenses, according to the Federal Reserve.

Settlements are sometimes in the best interests of crash victims

When you are involved in a car crash, you might decide that you are going to seek compensation for the damages you suffered. This is done through a personal injury lawsuit, but not all go through a trial. Sometimes, these cases are resolved through a settlement.

There are many benefits and drawbacks to working out a settlement agreement. You have to consider all options when determining the best course of action.

Navigating the holidays as divorced parents

Oklahoma residents who are going through or have gone through a divorce should consider how to parent during the holidays. Holidays come with extra struggles for separated or divorced families who have to juggle custody of their children. Since this can produce dilemmas wrought with feelings for both parents and children, it may help to approach the holidays with a plan already in place.

First, it is important for divorced parents to remember to focus on what would best benefit their children. Putting feelings about their former partners aside is vital, which may be a difficult undertaking for many people. Having a support system in place, such as a therapist or friends and family, can go a long way toward mitigating divorce-related holiday stress. A support system can also help people make holiday-related parenting decisions as they do not have to experience the raw emotions the divorced couple has to deal with.

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